Is It Going Sour? – How Not To Be A Successful Sugar Daddy
If you like the idea of Sugar Daddydome, then ignore the following guidelines at your peril and risk your beloved candy girl getting a sour taste about the whole thing and looking elsewhere.
Here are the Don’ts for Daddies:
1. Remember that the woman who wants a Sugar Daddy is not a child. So you needn’t treat her as one. Indulge her by all means but do bear in mind that a Sugar Daddy is not a strict Edwardian uncle whose job it is to instruct and discipline. Yes, you may well be older than your girl but you needn’t come across as if you think you are wiser, at least not all the time. If she asks your advice, give it by all means. The rest of the time, make sure you are a fun, sexy and dependable companion to be around.
2. Sugar Daddy does not possess his woman. Okay, your standing and the not inconsiderable financial benefits that you inevitably bring to the relationship may be features that your lady rates highly, but that doesn’t mean you have bought her as you might a car or a new stereo system. You are both in the relationship by mutual agreement, an emotional agreement. This is not hire purchase. There is no bill of sale. The best Sugar Daddies treat their women with respect. The only purchases made are the in the form of the gifts they buy their deserving ladies.
3. This is your very special personal life, not a work environment. You are not your woman’s boss. She is not your assistant or secretary and she certainly isn’t on hand simply to sort out your filing system or field your business calls. If she expresses an interest in doing those things for you, then fine, but please, don’t suggest it. This is one instance where life really is all about play and not work. And it as always, it’s all about her.
4. Many Sugar Daddies, by nature of their maturity, may well have been married before or at least had previous relationships. If so they can learn from any mistakes made in past unions. The lesson to be learned here, Daddy, is: don’t draw up comparisons with old flames and your current girl. It may well be the case that Miss X, the girl you dated way back when in the distant and possibly quite murky past, could whip up a mean soufflé. But if Miss Z, who you are now Sugar Daddy to doesn’t know which way up a spoon is, don’t make her feel inadequate by mentioning those culinary marvels that are now a thing of that rosily remembered past of yours. Instead put yesterday to one side and praise today’s woman on her individual merits. Don’t judge her by using reference to other’s talents as a yardstick.
Being a Sugar Daddy can be a rewarding and fun experience if you get it right. Bearing the above tips in mind can really help you make sure that your relationship stays a sweet as the lovely lady you are daddy to.
