How To Get Any Man To Commit Within 6 Months
It doesn’t matter why men don’t want to commit. In this article we are going to explore ways to get a man to commit within six months regardless of the reasons that they may think they have for not doing so.
Women tend to be afraid to back off from a man. We sometimes think, “If I back off too far someone else will grab him.” The first thing you need to understand is that NOBODY can take something from you that is really yours. If, by backing off, your man dumps you for another woman he was never yours to begin with.Let’s say you have found your dream man. You have been seeing him on the weekends for months, you have even met some of his friends and they are beginning to see you as a couple. Now you want to move the relationship to the next level. How do you do that?
It all comes down to understanding the basic nature of the beast called “man.” Men are basically hunters. They like the sport of hunting women. What you need to know is that no hunter wants an animal that stands in front of him and says to him “Shoot Me.” It is all about the hunt. It’s all about telling his friends the story of all the ways he finally got the “deer.” It’s all about the admiration in his friends eyes when they see what he has “bagged.” Understanding this gives you an advantage to thinking as a man thinks.
The first thing you want to do is BACK OFF. You have to create an illusion of being slightly unavailable. Psychology has shown that when we back off the other person comes closer. It’s called the “rubber band” technique. When you begin to pull the rubber band in one direction the other part snaps back towards you. If women only understood this they would learn to quit running after men. Calling him constantly, being always available is not going to move you any closer to the commitment that you want.
Women feel lovingly towards men as they spend time with them. Men are wired differently. Men need to have time away from a woman to think about her and to miss her. If you really want commitment you have to be willing to risk putting space between you and your man. This gives him time to think about you and wonder what you are up to. It makes him want to “hunt” you down. He loves the game. Without the chase there is no excitement. If you are constantly calling him and dropping by his home he may start to find you boring. He may not turn you down, but his eyes are going to wander to those women in the office whom he can’t quite figure out.
Let’s say by reading this article you are thinking “Wow, I have already blown it with this man.” Quite the contrary, if you start today to be more illusive it will have an even greater impact on the relationship. Tell yourself that starting today you are going to give yourself a six months time period to get your man to commitment. If within the next six months this man does not move closer to commitment tell yourself that you are worth more than this and you will commit to yourself to move on.
1. Starting today do not call him first anymore. You will wait until you hear from him. If it takes sitting on your hands to keep from doing that then sit on your hands. When the urge to call him comes to you find something else to do. Find a game you enjoy online and download it to your computer. Instead of calling him lose yourself in the game. Take a walk. Enroll in a class. Walk around the mall and window shop. Make yourself your top priority and not him. What this will do is force him to wonder if you are losing interest in him. His hunting instincts will come out and he will want to find out what is going on differently with you.
2. The next weekend instead of going to his place or having him at your place, you tell him that you have decided to take some time off and get back to your center. Go visit your mother or one of your friends for the weekend. While you are there quit thinking of him compulsively and make a game over staying in the moment. Really enjoy each moment. This not only makes you more of an interesting person when you share your weekend adventures with him, it makes him wonder what you are REALLY up to.
3. Take a trip to a day spa. Spend time getting yourself feminine and gorgeous and then, instead of running over to show him the new you, go out on the town with your girlfriends. In his mind he will wonder if you have someone new that you want to impress. Thinking that someone else might steal you from him will drive him crazy. Nothing motivates a man like competition does, real or imaginary.
4. Next you will want to start to keep him guessing. In order to do that you will come back to your old routine for a week. Now you will call him, drop by, ECT. Once he gets used to all the attention from you again he will miss it even more when you go back to not doing these things the next week. In this case confusion is your friend as it adds to the mystery of “you” and keeps him guessing.
5. Make friends with his mother. Start to invite her out to lunch. Find out when her birthday is and send her a card. Any man who is good to his mother will be good to you. If he is not friends with his mother he may not be husband material. By finding out “who” she is you can find out a lot about the man. In any case by being kind and attentive to her she will want to see you in his life PERMANENTLY.
6. Do not mention marriage, your biological time clock, or anything that will make him feel you are desperate for commitment. You want to do just the opposite. Make him feel as if you are a treasure waiting for the right man. You have plenty of time. Turn the tables on him and act as if you are having too much fun to commit to just ONE man.
7. If he asks “what’s up with you lately?” smile sweetly and reply, “I am not sure I know what you mean.” Keep him guessing. Keep your mouth shut and let him wonder. Nothing pushes a man further from you then getting emotional and spilling your guts out to him. You want to appear to be a strong woman capable of scripting your own life.
Within six months of the “new you” your man should be at the point of wanting total commitment. He will have decided that you are too good of a catch to let go and he will never want to let you, this fascinating new woman, out of his life. It’s not easy to implement these changes and at first it’s going to feel uncomfortable to you. It may feel like writing with your left hand when you are right handed. If you are strong enough to implement this plan, knowing that there is gold at the end of the rainbow, you will be on your way to having him all to yourself FOREVER.
Written for Diamond Daddy.
