The “Up Side” of Dating Older Men
What is it, exactly, that young women find so appealing about dating older men? “Money” is a shallow answer, and millions of women would say it is a wrong one.
Older men, especially professionals, tend to be well-spoken and more socially confident compared to their younger counterparts. They exude a self-assuredness that gives women a sense of security.
Dating older men is especially appealing to college-educated, upwardly mobile women. They simply have more in common with the older men they choose to date.
Because older men have a better handle on their money and their debt than men twenty or thirty years their junior, women dating older men do not find themselves in the position of constantly bailing out their companions on car or student loan payments, or other debt incurred prior to their relationship.
A young woman and her older man can spend money and time enjoying performances or places that they both love.
In fact, most women find that the romantic experience is more fun, interesting, and adventurous when dating older men. Younger women find excitement in the prospect of doing something besides having sex, eating pizza, and watching UFC on the boob tube.
A man who is more experienced in life may also be more experienced in the bedroom. Older men might teach you a few tricks, which makes for an extremely rewarding experience. They also may value a real woman’s body and curves more than their twenty-something counterparts. Older men realize that there is more to a lasting connection than just sexual chemistry.
Younger men can give quite the romp in the bedroom too, but it is in the nature of most of them to romp with other females as well. Sexual attraction is not everything in a relationship. It can only make a woman gloss over just so many shortcomings or affairs. Much is to be said for a man who is willing to commit and be faithful, and older men usually offer that assurance.
Many women find themselves dating older men because the ones their own age lack spiritual development. Regardless of persuasion – Christian, Buddhist, Taoist, Atheist – a man who is secure in his beliefs and grounded in his spirituality is attractive. Older men tend to have bypassed the time in their lives when they are still struggling with issues of God and of how they fit into the universe.
“What if you decide you want (more) children?” is a common question thrown at a young woman who dates older men. Well, what if she doesn’t? “No kids” or “no more kids” may be something she wants, for any combination of reasons. Women who know what they want in the way of family structure and obligations find that older men are more likely to agree with or at least understand the reasoning, or to move on if they don’t. A man who wants children will try to change her mind.
In any relationship, the choice of partner comes down to compatibility and love. Dating older men may be a woman’s way of seeking out respect and filling her needs for communication and connection. Other people will have their opinions, but remember – at the end of the day, there are only two people in the relationship.
Written by Brandy Stoner
